The ancient wisdom from the East teaches us about the energies of life, love and sexuality and how we can unite body, mind and soul and turn our lives into a sacred practice. Amongst other things here we will see how we can use our sexual energy as a tool to the highest ecstasy, in the meeting with our beloved. Tantric massage is a way of making us present in the moment, in a state of relaxation and awareness.
Through an intensive awakening of the sexual pleasure and sensitivity, we can expand and refine our state of consciousness, using and controlling the sexual energy in and up through the body, instead of losing it through discharging orgasms. This energy then becomes available on other levels of your being, being transformed into, for instance, love or mental power. Being able to use this huge potential, in areas other than just sexuality, gives the surplus to deepen the relationship with the beloved.
Tantric massage is a wonderful way to awaken and experience the erotic energy in relaxed awareness and love. It opens up a new world of intimate togetherness experiencing the magic of touch and does not necessarily lead to lovemaking. The human touch reveals itself as the silent gate to our heart.
The human body has a tremendous capacity to experience pleasure through its 5 senses: sight, sound, smell, taste and above all touch.
Touch is said to be food for our Souls, and the tactile experience is essential for the development of a happy and fulfilled human being. In fact, a huge part of our brain is dedicated to the sensory and tactile department. Lack of touch hardens us and makes us tense.
Touch is the primary sense we develop. For a newborn baby, touch is the first point of contact with a strange new world and the mother’s skin is where it finds warmth and comfort. It is through being touched with love that we establish our self-esteem and appreciation of our own bodies. These attitudes, developed early in our lives, play a large part in creating fulfilling love relationships. Also, later in our lives, we can discover the profound effects that the loving touch continues to have on all levels of our being. It touches us on the deepest level and relaxes us both physically and emotionally.
In the esoteric yogic tradition it is known that the heart Chakra is connected to the sense of touch. This means that we can awaken our hearts simply by touching and being touched. Some of the superior human qualities like unconditional love, compassion and empathy will almost automatically become more present in our beings through practising tantric massage. We are, of course, not talking about a superficial back rub, but the full experience where the entire body is included in the massage and covered with loving touches full of awareness. Including the entire body in the experience will not only create a very healing experience for both body and soul, but also awaken and open the heart chakra completely in a very conscious way.
If both lovers during the massage are completely open and relaxed their auras will blend exactly like when making love; thus we can call a tantric massage “Lovemaking at the level of the Soul”.
Loving touch within the tantric massage enriches the sensual and emotional aspects of our love relationships, and brings us a new and deeper level of intimacy, while we are helping each other relax and explore the realms of sensuality and eroticism.
The tantric massage is a deeply relaxing, rejuvenating and healing experience that awakens sensitivity and energy, increases the capacity to experience pleasure and creates a deep intimacy and closeness between the lovers that will reflect in all aspects of their relationship.
Women are generally more in “touch” with their overall sensuality than men and love to be shown through touch that they are appreciated in ways other than just their sensuality. Men tend to be more sexually focused in a physical relationship, but once they discover the delights of full body sensuality, they are converted.
Tantric massage is something worth studying but most of all practicing. More important than the techniques is the attitude and the loving attentiveness behind the touch.
It is very helpful to be aware of differences between the two sexes and we offer here some practical advice:
Helpful advice for men:
- Be extremely aware when giving. The massage will be your most efficient tool in getting to know the woman. When giving tantric massage you are not overwhelmed by the “heat of the action” as can be the case when making love, and that can give you the chance to stay very lucid and read all the small signals she is sending to you (the woman is constantly emitting signals). Giving a tantric massage is your chance to prove you are worthy of the famous tantric saying: “My greatest happiness is to make my beloved as happy as possible”. Practically all women are used to the idea that, when a man offers to give her a massage, he has a hidden agenda – she feels that he wants something from her. But when you make her understand that you truly want to give her a beautiful gift from your heart and you don’t want something in return, she will start to open up in a completely new way.
- When receiving, go completely into the experience. Don’t observe things from a mental distance, but stay present in the ‘here and now’ through the sensorial experience. Use the massage as a voyage of exploration into the amazing mysteries of your body – it has many wonderful undiscovered capacities of pleasure and wellbeing. If you are too much in your mind, then focus first on your breath, and then on the sense of touch. Don’t think, feel!
Helpful advice for women:
- When giving massage you should feel free, open, spontaneous and playful. Only when you are relaxed can you give a good experience. The self-confidence and the spontaneity can only come on the background of relaxation and being in the present moment. Focus more on the other one than yourself and stay in the heart. When the man is just lying there and receiving with his eyes closed, you finally have the chance to be spontaneous, to let your natural feminine sensuality express freely, without any limitations.
- When receiving, stay constantly aware. Women have the natural tendency to dive into the sensorial experience, sometimes losing the awareness in the ocean of pleasure. Their challenge is to constantly stay aware of what is going on inside them. In this way they can learn much easier to get back into the states of ecstasy they previously experienced. And don’t try to control the situation! The woman’s path to ecstasy goes through complete surrendering. So just let go and trust the man to take care of the control.
Creating the time and space for the intimate experience that the tantric massage is one of the best investments for a loving couple relationship. The two lovers will discover each other in a new way as they touch each others souls.
“A tantric massage is not a massage with some transfiguration added; it is transfiguration with some massage added…”