|The Stability and Harmony of a Tantric Happy Couple Springs from Deepening their Intimacy|
|Tantra - The Tantric Couple|
A tantric relation between a man and a woman is a relation which enjoys an emotional and profoundly erotic intimacy and is based on sincere and open communication between the two lovers. If we want our relationship to blossom then we have to cultivate reciprocal trust and respect, spiritual opening, and a profound and delicious state of intimacy.
The central idea of tantric wisdom is accomplishing the unity and harmonic state, by establishing a stable state between the male and female polar forces, which rule all of Existence. According to Tantra, the perfect communion between these two harmonious complementary forces can give birth to the Infinite Happiness (Bliss).
For deepening the state of profound intimacy share your thoughts and feelings with your lover
The state of delicious intimacy in a couple becomes profound when we share our thoughts, experiences and intimate spiritual states. Our beings have to approach each other in an intimate and profound way, opening ourselves physically, affectively, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Sometimes this process can be difficult for us, because it is necessary for us to abandon our protective shields which we used to protect our soul’s wounds due to our past couple relationship experiences.
The immediate solving of certain conflicts, which in time can lead to states of anger, resentments or tensions between us and our lover, can help us a lot in our couple relationship and will make our erotic life be rich in spontaneity, exuberance and delight. Tantric love is a transforming experience. We can not give ourselves totally to our lover if we continue to maintain in ourselves certain inhibitions or frustrations on an emotional level. It is necessary to give up prejudices to be able to empathize and to respond to our lover’s feelings.
For our couple relationship to maintain its freshness and harmony it is necessary to spend a period of time discussing delicate problems, aiming to understand the other one’s point of view as well, and thus the communication between us becoming more efficient and having a positive impact on us. When we decide to enter in such a discussion we keep in mind the following aspects: each of us will work at telling sincerely, coherently, in a stable tone, calmly what is pressing in his/her soul and the other will engage in listening with lot of attention and receptivity, without adopting a defensive attitude. Another very important aspect is that none of us will interrupt the other and when we speak, practice not to dominate the conversation by raising our voice. Also, we should not be afraid to show our vulnerability in front of the other, but to display trust that opening our souls to our relationship will only result in it winning.
The Joy of sharing erotic experiences
Sexuality is an intrinsic and precious part of our human nature and deserves to be treated with great responsibility. In an intimate tantric relationship we ought have trust in each other and respect reciprocally our states, feelings, ideals and beliefs. We will keep in mind the erotic and loving readiness the other person has and we will never force them to make love to us when they do not want it. When adoration and reciprocal transfiguration exist, sexual limitations and prejudices disappear; loving intimacy develops as we open ourselves in front of the other, sharing our thoughts, feelings, fears, doubts, wishes and erotic fantasies.
We will go into our bedroom with our lover and will start to caress each other, using different tactile means, such as tongue, lips, fingers and other parts of the body thus becoming familiar with our lover’s intimacies. We will then confess, tenderly and lovingly, how we would like to be touched and kissed, especially in our intimate areas. We will thus experience, in a plenary and trasfigurative way, erotic pleasure, enjoying all sexuality’s aspects, cherishing every discovery we make concerning our lover, being in the same time aware of our erotic oneness.